The Facts About Cyber Bullying

What is Cyber Bullying?

"Cyber bullying, also known as electronic bullying or online social cruelty, is defined as bullying through email, instant messaging, in a chat room, on a website or gaming site, or through digital messages or images sent to a cellular phone. Although sharing certain features in common with traditional bullying cyber bullying represents a unique phenomenon that has only recently begun to receive attention in both the popular press and in academic circles. Cyber bullying not only looks and feels a bit different than traditional bullying, but presents some unique challenges in dealing with it."  (Kowalski, Limber and Agatston, 2007)

What are some examples of Cyber Bullying?

Nancy Willard with the Center for Safe and Responsible Internet Use (CSRIU) has developed this useful taxonomy of the various forms of cyber bullying.  Visit CSRIU's site.

Flaming
Flaming refers to a brief, heated exchange between two or more individuals that occurs via any communication technology. Typically, though, flaming occurs in “public” settings, such as chat rooms or discussion groups, rather than private e-mail exchanges. If a series of insulting exchanges ensues, then a flame war has started.

Cyber Harassment
In the cyber bullying literature, cyber harassment generally is viewed as a unique form of cyber bullying that involves repetitive offensive messages sent to a target. Most often harassment occurs via personal communication channels, such as e-mail, but harassing messages may also be communicated in public forums, such as chat rooms and discussion groups. 

Denigration
Denigration is information about another that is derogatory and untrue. The information may be posted on a web page or it may be disseminated to others via e-mail or instant messaging. Included within this category of cyber bullying is posting or sending digitally altered photos of someone, particularly in a way that portrays them in a sexualized or harmful manner.


With impersonation, the perpetrator poses as the victim, most often by using the victim’s password to gain access to his or her accounts, then communicating negative, cruel, or inappropriate information with others as if the target himself or herself were voicing those thoughts.

Outing and Trickery
Outing refers to sharing personal, often embarrassing information with others with whom the information was never intended to be shared. This may take the form of receiving an e-mail or instant message from a target that contains private, potentially embarrassing information and/or photos and then forwarding that e-mail on to others. Trickery refers to tricking someone into revealing personal information about themselves and then sharing that information with others.

 Exclusion/Ostracism
Whether in the online or offline world, children often perceive that they are either in or out. If they are not in the “in-group,” then they are in the “out-group.” Online exclusion can occur in any type of password-protected environment or by a target being knocked off of buddy lists or by refusal to accept a friend request from a classmate on a social networking site.

Cyberstalking
Cyberstalking refers to the use of electronic communications to stalk another person through repetitive harassing and threatening communications. Black’s Law Dictionary (1999) defines “stalking” as : (1) The act or an instance of following another by stealth. (2) The offense of following or loitering near another, often surreptitiously, with the purpose of annoying or harassing that person or committing a further crime such as assault or battery.” Although clearly related to harassment, cyberstalking involves more threats than pure harassment.

Who Cyber Bullies?

Both boys and girls cyber bully, although it appears that girls are more likely to engage in cyber bullying and be targeted by cyber bullying than their male counterparts. This is a difference from traditional bullying, where we find boys engaging in bullying behaviors or being targeted in higher numbers than girls.  (Learn more about the research findings for cyberbullying and traditional bullying by reading our book, Cyber Bullying:  Bullying In the Digital Age.)

How can we prevent Cyber Bullying?

Parents
Communicate with your children about their online experiences
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Parents need to discuss cyber bullying with their children as part of their regular discussions about Internet Safety and appropriate use of technologies.  Parents can make it clear that using the Internet or cellular phones to embarrass or hurt others’ feelings is not part of their family values.  Discussing the golden rule as it applies to internet and technology use can be very helpful. Parents should discuss bystander behavior as well, encouraging children to speak out against cyber bullying they witness and to report it to the appropriate person. In addition, parents need to set up guidelines for appropriate use for each new piece of technology that is brought into the home.  (Learn more about what parents can do in our book, Cyber Bullying:  Bullying in the Digital Age.)

Educators
Teach Students Online “Netiquette”, Safe Blogging, and How to Monitor Their Online Reputation.

“Online netiquette skills are becoming vital as technology is increasingly being incorporated into most career paths. Many schools encourage teachers to keep blogs where class and homework assignments are posted for students to review. Students are asked to post assignments online. Providing tips on appropriate posting and online etiquette as part of incorporating more technology in the classroom is critical.  In addition schools need clear policies against bullying and cyber bullying, and bullying prevention programs in their schools.” (Kowalski, Limber & Agatston, 2007)
(Learn more about what educators can do to develop effective bullying prevention programs in our book, Cyber Bullying:  Bullying in the Digital Age.)

Students
Become a courageous bystander!

    • Don’t engage in or support mean material, gossip, or rumors posted online, or talk about it at school.
    • Support a classmate being targeted online by posting positive messages!
    • If you know the person being targeted, invite him/her to spend time with you.
    • Tell an adult at home and at school.
    • Print the evidence to share with an adult.
    • Confront the student who is cyber bullying if it is safe, and make it clear that you think their behavior is wrong.
    • Remember that we are not invisible online, and anything we post can be traced back to us.  Monitor your online reputation. (Kowalski, Limber & Agatston, 2007)

 

How to address Cyber Bullying


The authors have a variety of materials to assist you in addressing cyber bullying.

Read our parent handout on cyber bullying that includes specific steps you can take to address cyber bullying. 

Read our tips on removing offensive profiles on social networking sites

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